Here's a great quote for you, "Behold the turtle. He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out."- James Bryant Conant. Don't be afraid to come out of your shell. That is the only way you'll move forward. You are not the worst, but not the best choice either. If you get a few more things together you too will be soulmate material. Whether its that you have a lot of insecurities, too much weighing you down, and can't quite make ends meet or you have too much on your plate while still committed to others you should now know that planning a serious relationship may be difficult for you. If you come in a relationship with a full load or off of the strength of your partner your relationship could go sour very quickly. If your partner chooses to stay with you then they may be holding on to other things like the fact that they pity you or it could be your looks, money, etc. That wouldn't be good either because once those things go, so does your partner. If you have a partner that feels sorry for you and your situation, it won't last. Here's a quote for you, "The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself." -Mark Caine.